What Are The Pros and Cons of Being Well-Known?


Learning to Love the Questions

Fame means the condition of being well-known. Please tell me what are the good or bad points of being well-known? Anne Stevenson in her book, Bitter Fame, claims that Sylvia Plath’s need for fame could cause her mental distress. James Tate in one of his essays says: “Fame for a true artist is a luxury.” What […]

To Write Is To Sit In Confrontation With Yourself


Learning to Love the Questions

For her third question, the Iranian poet quoted something I wrote in our correspondence that was not part of my answer to either of her two pervious questions: What I’ve been thinking is that no one I know who is not an academic fully understands the degree to which grading essays is emotional labor. Even […]

The Source of War


Learning to Love the Questions

From April through September of last year, I was corresponding with a poet from Iran who’d asked to interview me. Given the current situation and the fact that I know nothing about the poet’s situation, not even whether or not they are still alive, I am not going to name them here, but I’ve been […]

The Power We Pretend Not To See – 5


Learning to Love the Questions

In The Conference of the Birds, a Sufi allegory which I summarized briefly in Part One of this series, Farid al-Din Attar calls the penultimate stage of enlightenment, the final one the birds must pass through before reaching their goal, “The Valley of Bewilderment.” In this context, however, bewilderment does not signify mere confusion. Rather, it names a stage […]

The Power We Pretend Not To See – 4


Learning to Love the Questions

Batter my heart, three-person’d God, for youAs yet but knock, breathe, shine, and seek to mend;That I may rise and stand, o’erthrow me, and bendYour force to break, blow, burn, and make me new.I, like an usurp’d town to another due,Labor to admit you, but oh, to no end;Reason, your viceroy in me, me should […]

The Power We Pretend Not To See – 3


Learning to Love the Questions

The idea of love at first sight has always struck me as a scam. It’s possible, of course, for two people to feel an immediate and intense connection that can go well beyond the physical, but the happily-ever-after we’ve mythologized as the inevitable result of that connection sets up expectations that the often heart-breaking work […]

The Power We Pretend Not To See – 2


Learning to Love the Questions

(Read Part 1 here.) When I was an undergraduate, a man I looked up to as a teacher and a mentor took me to his studio so I could see some of his recent paintings. There was one that I could not stop staring at: a naked man falling through a fractured landscape of colors, […]